How to Manage Your Moody Child

There are some children who are born cheerful and sunny. There are others who are moody and analytical. They see the world in a very serious way. They think and feel deeply. They are not trying to put a damper on other people's moods. They can be critical and seem pessimistic. As parents we need to understand that they can be happy but do not overtly show their enthusiasm. Being with these children can gets parents down. It can help parents if they can envision a future for these children. They can become adults who are newscasters and judges.
They are able to make good critical judgments; they are not gullible and are able to remain objective in all sorts of situations.

Parents may butt heads with these children while trying to gain their cooperation. It helps to know that these children are thinkers. They need time to process information. They do not like being rushed, fast paced transitions or being over stimulated. Parents and caregivers should slow down their pace when they are with these children. Moody children can tantrum from sleep deprivation or too many transitions.

These children also like their opinions to be acknowledged and respected. They do not like being put down.

We can help them understand themselves by naming their feelings:

"It is important to you to seriously considering all the factors."

"It's upsetting when people don't see what you see."

We can also teach these children to see the positive in life and help them reframe situations. They also need to be taught good manners and politeness markers. They can also use some information on how to make pleasant small talk and that they can engage others in light conversation.They will need gentle reminders that many people are uncomfortable talking about what they are talking about.

This children need to be praised to help them maintain a good sense of self. Parents can praise these children for seeing the positive in situations and should encourage them to feel good about their disposition.

Parents can say:

• "I really appreciate when you tell me what you like."
• "I appreciate your point of view."
• "That makes sense; it's practical and realistic."
• "You are not afraid to ask tough questions."

Source: Ezine